{"id":5016,"date":"2011-11-19T06:46:28","date_gmt":"2011-11-19T12:46:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.thepickyapple.com\/blog\/?p=5016"},"modified":"2011-11-19T06:46:45","modified_gmt":"2011-11-19T12:46:45","slug":"thankfulness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thepickyapple.com\/blog\/2011\/11\/19\/thankfulness\/","title":{"rendered":"Thankfulness"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve so enjoyed reading all of the entries to My Biggest Giveaway Ever<\/a> over the last few days. \u00c2\u00a0We all have so much to be thankful for, don’t we? \u00c2\u00a0I thought it might be time to repost one of my favorite posts on Thankfulness and Developing an Attitude of Gratitude. \u00c2\u00a0The giveaway winner will be announced TOMORROW, so if you haven’t entered the giveaway yet, today’s the last day!<\/p>\n

As we celebrate Thanksgiving, many of you will be reflecting on all you have to be thankful for.\u00c2\u00a0 I’ll be doing that too.\u00c2\u00a0 But I’d encourage you to keep up with those reflections all year round!\u00c2\u00a0 Not just on this one special day, or only in the month of November, but the whole year ’round!\u00c2\u00a0 In case you read my posts in RSS feed or are new to my blog (and there are a lot of you lately!), I have a Gratitude Journal in my sidebar that I update frequently with things I’m thankful for.\u00c2\u00a0 I also keep a Gratitude Journal<\/a> on my nightstand that I write in each (okay, most)<\/em> nights.<\/p>\n

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My Gratitude Journal is just one of the ways I celebrate Thankfulness throughout the year.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s easy to Give Thanks and Be Grateful when surrounded by family and friends and when everything is going right in your life.\u00c2\u00a0 But remembering to be thankful even when life hits some speed bumps can be a little more challenging and that’s what this post is all about……<\/p>\n

(the following post, Developing An Attitude of Gratitude<\/a> was originally published on May 27, 2010)<\/em><\/p>\n

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I’m a pessimist.\u00c2\u00a0 A worrier.\u00c2\u00a0 A whiner.\u00c2\u00a0 I tend to see the glass as half empty.\u00c2\u00a0 And lately, it seems like a big black cloud has been hovering over my head.\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0 Sometimes I feel like life’s just not FAIR. (That’s me pouting and stomping my foot like a 2 year old, having a little pity party, in case you couldn’t tell).<\/p>\n

But things could be much<\/em> worse, and I need to work on my attitude.\u00c2\u00a0 “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.”\u00c2\u00a0 Attitude is (almost) everything, apparently.\u00c2\u00a0 And my attitude needs some serious improving.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s so easy to get caught up in every little daily irritation, every loss, every complication, every event that doesn’t turn out as expected or planned.\u00c2\u00a0 I don’t want to dwell on the negative anymore.\u00c2\u00a0 I don’t want to become\u00c2\u00a0 that person (or have I already?) that always has a list of complaints to share with you whenever you ask how they are doing.<\/p>\n

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When you get caught up in all that is wrong, you fail to see all of the things that are right <\/em>and good <\/em>about life.\u00c2\u00a0 I’m making an effort now to have an attitude of gratitude.\u00c2\u00a0 But how exactly do you develop an attitude of gratitude? <\/strong>(This is just a little guide and some reminders for myself as much as everyone else.)<\/p>\n

Count your blessings. <\/strong>I don’t necessarily mean counting them literally<\/em>, although I suppose keeping a numbered running list of things to be grateful for could be helpful.\u00c2\u00a0 I mean that you need to somehow document all of your blessings.\u00c2\u00a0 I choose to do this via a Gratitude Journal where I record 3-5 things to be thankful for each day.\u00c2\u00a0 For a peek at mine, check out this Gratitude Journal post<\/a>.\u00c2\u00a0 You could also draw them or create a collage.\u00c2\u00a0 On the good days, this will be an amazingly easy task.\u00c2\u00a0 On the bad days, coming up with 3-5 things to be grateful for might be a little trickier.\u00c2\u00a0 Perhaps your list will include things like: “I didn’t yell today.\u00c2\u00a0 I got dinner on the table for my family.\u00c2\u00a0 So thankful to have a car to run errands!”\u00c2\u00a0 Sometimes we take some of the basics (food, shelter, clothing) for granted.\u00c2\u00a0 If you’re looking for inspiration for your gratitude journal, check out 14,000 Things to be Happy About<\/a>, by Barbara Ann Kipfer.\u00c2\u00a0 I’ve had this book for about 15 years (now there’s even an updated version<\/a> with 14,000 new<\/em> things), and I can always find something here to be thankful for!<\/p>\n

Give thanks. <\/strong>When was the last time you let your family and friends know just how much they mean to you?\u00c2\u00a0 It is so easy to take them for granted.\u00c2\u00a0 I’m definitely guilty of this.\u00c2\u00a0 Maybe it’s time to send them a note, an email, or give them a phone call.\u00c2\u00a0 Or let them know in person.\u00c2\u00a0 Isn’t it odd how we are more likely to say thank you to a stranger at the grocery store than we are to our own family members?\u00c2\u00a0 It’s time to make sure those closest to you know just how much you appreciate all that they do.<\/p>\n

Help others.<\/strong> It’s been a couple of years since I’ve volunteered my time (unless you count being a room mom), but I used to volunteer several times a month at both Dress for Success<\/a> and the Houston SPCA<\/a>.\u00c2\u00a0 Those afternoons of helping women pick out a suit that would make them feel confident for that much-needed job interview and\u00c2\u00a0 those mornings spent caring for and loving on those dogs and cats waiting for their forever homes were some of the most fulfilling moments before I became a mother.\u00c2\u00a0 I know I don’t have that kind of time to commit in this season of my life, but I need to do something<\/em> to help others.\u00c2\u00a0 I’ve really enjoyed sharing my passion for art with the kids and mommies in our Art Playgroup<\/a>, perhaps I could run with that somehow.\u00c2\u00a0 I’ve also been thinking about volunteering as a patient advocate<\/a> after our less-than-pleasant experience<\/a>.\u00c2\u00a0 Think about what you can do to help others and take the first step to make it happen.<\/p>\n

Keep things in perspective.<\/strong> It’s so easy to forget the big picture and to get wrapped up in the little irritations of day-to-day living.\u00c2\u00a0 Cranky because you had to wait for an hour at the dentist’s office?\u00c2\u00a0 Be thankful that we have such wonderful dental and health care available, the advances in medical technology, and that you have health insurance.\u00c2\u00a0 Frustrated because the summer camp you really wanted to send your child to is already full?\u00c2\u00a0 Be thankful for your wonderful neighborhood parks and pools, local libraries and other free and inexpensive forms of entertainment nearby.\u00c2\u00a0 I read somewhere that if your family income is $10,000 a year, you are wealthier than 84% of the world.\u00c2\u00a0 If your family income is $50,000 or more a year, you make more than 99% of the world. <\/em>Wow!\u00c2\u00a0 That makes me feel so fortunate for the opportunities available to me and mine.\u00c2\u00a0 Time to stop complaining about what I don’t<\/em> have.<\/p>\n

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Be aware when you compare.<\/strong> I’m tempted to say “Don’t make comparisons at all<\/em>“, but I think remembering the statistic above and realizing how much better off you have it than many people (a roof over your head?\u00c2\u00a0 clean water?) can be helpful in developing your attitude of gratitude.\u00c2\u00a0 It can also be useful to seek inspiration in the lives of others, particularly those who have similar values to your own.\u00c2\u00a0 But there will always be someone who has a bigger house, more money, a nicer car, a better body, or a “perfect” marriage that you long for.\u00c2\u00a0 Those types of comparisons can lead to stress, envy, and feelings of inferiority and insecurity (For more on insecurity, check out Beth Moore’s new book, So Long Insecurity<\/a>).<\/p>\n

Create a Pessimism Prevention Plan to refer to in case of “emotional emergency.”<\/strong> When something goes wrong, whether it is big or little, you need to have an emotional plan of action in place.\u00c2\u00a0 This is your Pessimism Prevention Plan.\u00c2\u00a0 For the bigger things, like the loss of a loved one or divorce, it’s natural to be upset.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s okay to grieve.\u00c2\u00a0 But when little<\/em> things go wrong (even if those little things don’t seem<\/em> little), this is when those of us who are natural pessimists or worriers need to have a strategy in place to prevent a downward spiral of negative thinking.\u00c2\u00a0 A Pessimism Prevention Plan, if you will.\u00c2\u00a0 This might include referring back to previous entries in your gratitude journal (or maybe carrying around some of your favorite blessings in your wallet),\u00c2\u00a0 re-reading this blog post, signing up for some additional hours at the animal shelter, or a phone call or coffee with a particularly optimistic\u00c2\u00a0 and uplifting family member or friend.<\/p>\n

Live in the present.<\/strong> It’s hard to enjoy all of the blessings of today if you’re reliving the past or worrying about the future.\u00c2\u00a0 Try to focus on right now. <\/em><\/p>\n

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printable from Craftily Ever After<\/p><\/div>\n

Do you have any additional tips for developing an attitude of gratitude?\u00c2\u00a0 How do you stay positive?<\/strong>
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