Comments on: What, ME Worry?!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:16:09 +0000

I can relate to so much of this. I am A Worrier. I have no advice, just sending warm thoughts and (((hugs))) to you. And, I know that it’s not something you can simply turn on and off. If only! It sounds like you have a strong husband to lean on, annoyed though he may be. I have the same thing here and don’t know what I’d do without him! Take care and I’ll keep you (and your worries) in my prayers.

By: Tass

Tass — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 20:22:12 +0000

To all the worriers…my heart goes out to you but as one who is 51 years old and been thru much in my lifetime I need to say to all of you…STOP IT RIGHT NOW! You are taking away from the most precious time in your lives by doing all this fretting and it will not change one thing!!! What will be will be! I am supposed to be heading in to my “golden” years and I can tell that I wished I realized when I was your age that the “golden” years are where you young women are right this minute! Yes, when the kids are spilling juice on the floor, waking up 5 times a night, pulling on your apron strings, your husband is leaving his socks and underwear on the floor – these are the best years of your life! I can promise you this…”you will miss this”! I have seen birth, I have seen death, I have seen time track it’s way across my face and my body, I have cried more tears than I thought one person should have to, I have felt my body give way well before it’s time. Take hold of your husband’s face when he gets home tonight and give him a kiss from your heart, tell him that you love more than anything, hold your children tightly and tell them you will always be there for them and you love them more than life…and ENJOY your lives. Trouble will find you soon enough so savour the time that it is still looking for you and hasn’t found you yet!!! God Bless each and every one of you!

By: Katie @ Kitchen Stewardship

Katie @ Kitchen Stewardship — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 06:22:29 +0000

I wish I had some amazing words of wisdom for you…but all I can say is that we women are worryers! I do the same things. *sigh* Someday we’ll hopefully be in a place where we won’t have anything to worry about.
Katie

By: bashtree

bashtree — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:17:04 +0000

Ooooh I can so relate to this! I have a very hard time with change and with the unknown. I spent about a year knowing that we would be moving, ‘somewhere,’ ‘probably far,’ and ‘maybe in the next 4 months but probably in the next year and a half.’ Talk about lots of worry!! I can TOTALLY relate. And my husband is the same way, almost to a fault, as yours. He is so NOT worried that I double-worry to compensate. And then I get mad at him for his ‘lack of investment’ or whatever problem I’ve invented that day.

You want to know something silly that worked for me? Every day, I would set aside 15 minutes to worry as much as I could. I would usually do it in the evening. All day, when I felt the worry creeping in, I would remind myself that I didn’t have time to worry right then, that I would get it all done in the evening. It was a little weird, but for me, it WORKED. I would sit and worry while Brian was near, and when the time was up, I would take a deep breath and try to regroup and get on with it, knowing I would have a chance to worry again tomorrow. I know…bizarre…but it worked. A lot of my worry was either unquantifiable (we might be moving soon) and most of the rest was related to finances. I spent many months unable to sleep at night. Setting the time limit was what got me out of the quagmire. Maybe something like that might work for you?

By: Corinne

Corinne — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 01:19:35 +0000

Cara, you and I are two peas in a pod. I worry worry worry, and throw around what if’s, and my hubby is the same as your Picky Apple. Not a worry in sight. I’ve gotten much better than I used to be, and honestly, it’s because of the kids. Like you said, if you spend too much time worrying you miss what they’re doing… and it’s just not worth it. But part of me will always love the worrier side of me, and indulge now and then.
I hear you, lady, loud and clear Wish I could wisk away the worries, but I think you’re headed in the right direction!

By: Montessori Moments

Montessori Moments — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 20:39:08 +0000

Ok girls. You have another one in the worry / anxiety club. I worry about anything and everything from not having a clean enough house to dying in a car accident. Yup pretty much everything in between too.
I think my biggest worry is pleasing people. I can not stand having anyone upset at me.
I do have a great and understanding husband (he deals with people like me for his job LOL) which helps alot.
Anyway, just wanted you both to know you are not alone!
Thanks so much for sharing Cara! (and Mari-Ann)
If you ever need to feel better, just send me an e-mail and I will e-mail you back a list of everything I worry about. It’ll be so long you won’t help but laugh!

By: Mari-Ann

Mari-Ann — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 16:06:14 +0000

Hello, were we separated at birth? I nodded throughout this entire post. Did that, doing that. I know exactly how you feel and I have to say, you have a much better grip on Worry than I do. And on how your husband feels/responds to Worry. My husband is the exact same way (maybe a guy thing?), but I wasn’t able to really understand WHY he didn’t worry until I read this post. Ha! I bet you weren’t expecting to assist another worrywart in writing this, were you? When I worry until my head starts spinning (yes, that happens!) I force myself to sit down and write out everything I’m worried about – big and small stuff – and then when I’m finished I just set it aside and force myself to stop thinking about any of it for the rest of the day. In the short term it simply allows me to just chill out and take a breather.
Anyway, big hugs to you, Cara, from one worrier to another. It’s hard to ignore those worries, and to live in the moment as if there’s nothing looming. But you can, and I know WILL do it!!